“ Thinking rationally is often different from "positive thinking," in that it is a realistic assessment of the situation, with a view towards rectifying the problem if possible. ”
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“ It is only in your mind that you have to excel, at anything or everything. Of course, it would be very nice to excel at most things. Indeed, we recommend that you try and do your best. But realistically, you are entitled to do the bare minimum to get by. All your accomplishments are just a bonus, something to enjoy, not requirements. You don't have to do anything to prove that you are worthy of existing. ”
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“ Eating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth. ”
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“ Fat is a barrier, a bellicose statement to others that, to some, justifies hostility in kind. The world says to the fat person, "Your fatness is an affront to me, so we have the right to treat you as offensively as you appear." Fat is not merely viewed as another type of tissue, but as a diagnostic sign, a personal statement, and a measure of personality. Too little fat and we see you as being antisocial, fearful and sexless. Too much fat and we see you as slothful, stupid, and sexually hung up. ”
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“ Fat people, it is commonly held, should be punished because they offend our aesthetic sensibilities. They take up too much space on subways, buses, airplanes, and elevators. They consume more than they contribute to society. They become ill and need to be taken care of, or they die early and their families are left unsupported. The only way fat people can gain some acceptance and forgiveness for their crime of overeating is to at least try, or look like they are trying, to lose weight. They must never eat an ice cream cone in public, never be seen eating a normal sized portion of non-diet food! ”
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“ Life is indeed difficult, partly because of the real difficulties we must overcome in order to survive, and partly because of our own innate desire to always do better, to overcome new challenges, to self-actualize. Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to the next endeavor. ”
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“ Most things worth having require some sacrifice, usually more than you expect. ”
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“ I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19 to get over my fear of public speaking and of approaching young women in public. ”
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“ I started to call myself a rational therapist in 1955; later I used the term rational emotive. Now I call myself a rational emotive behavior therapist. ”
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“ I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition. ”
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“ The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny. ”
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“ For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency. ”
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“ People and things do not upset us, rather we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us. ”
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“ I just had a client this week who came to me after 10 years of Freudian therapy. He's in love with his analyst, and she is sort of in love with him. ”
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“ I regret that I've been so busy with clinical work that I haven't been able to spend much time on experiments and outcome studies. ”
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“ Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency. ”
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“ I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs. ”
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“ He would have been a security problem for any jail he would have been at. The judge was cognizant of that. ”
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“ I regret that I've been so busy with clinical work that I haven't been able to spend much time on experiments and outcome studies. ”
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“ I regret that I've been so busy with clinical work that I haven't been able to spend much time on experiments and outcome studies. ”
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“ I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert. ”
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