“ Children should feel loved because they exist, not because they’ve behaved in a certain way. ”
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“ Sending important messages via text is the coward’s way out. Don’t be the person who texts important messages. It’s rude, inconsiderate, and, yes, cowardly. ”
- Julie A. M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran- Copy
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“ When you own or take responsibility for your feelings, you place yourself in a position of power and control. ”
- Julie A. M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran- Copy
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“ When you understand that your feelings are triggered by what you think about an event and not by the event itself, you gain a measure of control. Although you cannot control the things (events) that happen to you, or change your feelings (after all, you feel the way you feel), you can change your thoughts. A change in thoughts often radically alters your feelings. ”
- Julie A. M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran- Copy
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“ Guilt is helpful only when it keeps us acting in line with our beliefs and morals. Otherwise, it creates needless suffering. ”
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“ Any time and energy you spend hating and being angry at your ex will ultimately take a toll on you without effecting any positive changes in your ex or your relationship. ”
- Julie A. M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran- Copy
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“ Being manipulative is dishonest and immature. We often end up having to make up more lies to cover for inconsistencies in our original manipulation. In addition, it sets a terrible example for our children. While it may solve your initial problem, the tangled web that grows from such dishonesty is more trouble than it’s worth. ”
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“ Fostering a spirit of cooperation with your ex means laying down your weapons in the war of divorce in order to protect your children. ”
- Julie A. M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran- Copy
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“ It’s helpful to imagine your relationship with him or her as a business relationship rather than a personal one. Just as you wouldn’t share that you’re feeling fat, ugly, and depressed with a client or tell her that you’ve just met the love of your life and you’ve never been happier, these thoughts and feelings should be kept to yourself and not shared with your ex. Finally, as in any good business relationship, be honest and prepared to deliver what you promise. ”
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“ The point is that no matter what your feelings are, your children will be better off if you make them your central focus and work diligently at keeping the parenting relationship civil and cooperative. ”
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“ Taking responsibility gives us power and control, because when we recognize the relationship between our choices and their consequences, then the next time we don’t like a consequence we can make a different choice. ”
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“ Ruminating about the past is like trying to drive backward to undo a car accident. ”
- Julie A. M.A. Ross and Judy Corcoran- Copy
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“ When you get angry at your ex, only about 10 percent of your anger can be attributed to the current situation. The other 90 percent comes from your past experiences with your ex, as well as those with your parents, caregivers, and other significant people in your past. The current situation has simply triggered your past anger and allowed it to resurface. It’s been said that if you’re hysterical, the cause is probably historical. ”
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